Rejection means and is the act of being refused or accepted.
"As I look back on my life, I realized that every time I thought I was being rejected for something good, I was actually being redirected to something better."
- Steve Maraboli
There are many types of rejection. Rejection can happen in many different situations. Some common types of rejection are from family, social, neglection, relationships, work, or romantic/sexual; that's just to name a few that are common to many of us. I'll go over a few of the types of rejections.
Family rejection can "consist of abuse, abandonment, neglect, or the withholding of love and affection." We fail to realize that this type of rejection can affect us throughout our lives. If we don't take the time to understand why we do and feel a kind of way about a thing or person, it can cause serious issues not just for ourselves but for our children and those we love dearly.
Social rejection can occur at any age and within any gender, but more so at the beginning of childhood. This rejection includes bullying, alienation in school, the workplace, and social media platforms. If you listen when entering rooms on Club House or Facebook Live, people will say, "this is a safe place," which gives you the green light to be yourself. It can be a challenge in many cases because society has played a big part in considering the norm and what's not. Be you anyway!
Relationship rejection is when we experience rejection while dating or in a relationship. One may not want to share every deal of their life with their partner or refuse to share or withhold affection or intimacy. This can cause the other partner to feel rejected. Rejection runs through our veins deeply, and it can be like cancer, dripping into our very being, causing us to be polluted at a single touch that cages our hearts repeatedly.
Rejection keeps us trapped in the illusion of separation. It would like to keep us in the 'us' and 'them' category or us against the world box. It keeps us believing we are not good enough, not desirable enough, not acceptable enough for the likes of others. Rejection keeps us in hiding, not letting one know that they are more than what meets the eye or that of a past relationship, making us feel small. Rejection keeps us locked down in fear, not wanting to be hurt again, and it blocks us from opening our hearts to newfound love, possibilities of what could be, new ideas, connections, and communication. Rejection eventually sucks the life out of everything it touches and leaves it deflated. We must choose to arise from the ashes and change how we see and do things. Though one may reject you, God doesn't, and you should accept yourself for whom you are. No, we are not perfect, but it's up to us to love our imperfections even if no one else does.
We've all been rejected at some point in our lives, but we have to choose life and not death. I've been bitter, angry, and confused? Absolutely, I sure was! Have I been Hurt? You bet I have been hurt, and it felt as if my heart had broken been broken into a million tiny pieces. Who doesn't feel a part of their heartbreak at rejection? I begin to ask myself, why not me? What's wrong with me, and what could I have done better? I had asked myself just about every question I could think of but still came up without an answer that gave me clarity. Once I realized that it was all for the story, I'd tell to help others and ensuring that even though we may get rejected by men, we must learn to accept ourselves for who we are and know that God accepts us.
Often, the LORD chooses those least likely (by human judgment) to be His chosen people. He's not looking at what you know because He knows it all. He's not looking at everything you right, but He is looking at what you've done wrong to use it to push you into greater. The Bible tells us in 1 Corinthians 1:27, "But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise; God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong." And in Zechariah 4:6, 'Not by might nor by power, but by my Spirit,' says the Lord Almighty." By the power of the Lord, we can go through the things we do and come out as pour gold. If it was, many of us would have lost our lives a long time ago and have given up on living a life in the shadows. I, for one, refuse to live amongst the shadows anymore, so I chose to roar and declare the goodness of the Lord. Although I may be rejected by man God has accepted me into His loving arms and that's where I chose to call home. Although man may reject me, God has accepted me into His loving arms, and that's where I chose to call home.
5 Ways To Deal With Rejection & How To Overcome It
Being rejected isn't the end of the world and can truly help you become a better person if you're willing not to let it suck you dry.
1. Accept Rejection: Look at it for what it is, try not to take it personally, and move forward with your life.
2. Learn from it! Please take the opportunity for self-growth and self-love and use it as an invitation to try something new.
3. Think Positive! Focus on what you still have in your life, and keep a positive attitude. As always, find the positivity that lays with the negative and build upon it!
4. Don't let rejection stop you! "I don't know about you, but I'm running hard for the finish line. I'm giving it everything I've got. No lazy living for me! I'm staying alert and in top condition. I'm not going to get caught napping, telling everyone else all about it, and then missing out myself." 1 Corinthians 9:26-27 MSG
5. "Realize that obstacles aren't restrictions" unless you give them the power to be! -The Women's Roar Conference